"But it never occurred to me to think of my mother and my father in the same category. Both were strong. Both were bright. Both were kind. Both would kiss me and both would spank me. Both were good with words. Both prayed with fervor and loved the Bible. But unmistakably my father was a man and my mother was a woman. They knew it and I knew it. And it was not mainly a biological fact. It was mainly a matter of personhood and relational dynamics. When my father came home he was clearly the head of the house. He led in prayer at the table. He called the family together for devotions. He got us to Sunday School and worship. He drove the car. He guided the family to where we would sit. He made the decision to go to Howard Johnson’s for lunch. He led us to the table. He called for the waitress. He paid the check. He was the one we knew we would reckon with if we broke a family rule or were disrespectful to Mother. These were the happiest times for Mother. Oh, how she rejoiced to have Daddy home! She loved his leadership. Later I learned that the Bible calls this 'submission.'"The product of complimentarianism is not peaceful relations. It is docile slavery, of both genders. Men are required to engage in terribly abusive behavior and women are required to be terribly abused. Seriously, who thought it was a good idea to base present-day gender relations on the two-thousand-year-old Middle Eastern model? That's what John Piper promotes, without apology and with an unruly ignorant candor in hopes of shuttling human civilization back a few thousand years and slightly east. Here are Piper's words about his book:
"I have tried to include enough Biblical argumentation in this essay, especially in the footnotes, to show why I believe this vision of manhood and womanhood is in fact 'according to the Bible.' I hope it will be obvious that my reflections are not the creation of an independent mind, but the fruit of a tree planted firmly in the soil of constant meditation on the Word of God."John Piper's arguments are entirely derived from the Bible, thus his openly strict adherence to the phrase "according to the Bible." This is the only area in which he gets points for honesty. Fashioning his misguided interpersonal praxiology and gender relations on the Bible makes sense for two reasons: One, the Bible agrees with his valuation and expectations of men and women and calls it virtuous (important), and two, it justifies the actions of his parents (very important).